How to Achieve a Good Divorce


It’s day two of Resolution’s Good Divorce Week 2020.

So, what is a “good” divorce? How do you divorce well and what steps can you take to achieve a constructive divorce?

Two of our lawyers, director James Pirrie and associate Nicole Phillips, have recently written about their top tips for a good divorce.

James’ blog “How to Divorce Well” include his top tips:

  • Divorce reasonably;
  • Focus on what matters and avoid pointing the finger;
  • Disclose information fully and early;
  • Focus first on the children;
  • Get on with it;
  • Get help to manage how infuriating this all is.

In Nicole’s blog “How to achieve a constructive divorce” she identifies the common features of the approach shared by couples who go on to achieve a constructive divorce. In Nicole’s view these common features include:

  • Recognising that relationship breakdown has emotional as well as legal repercussions, and that it is vital to attend to both;
  • Thinking carefully about which lawyer to instruct;
  • Focusing on the bigger picture and the welfare of your children.

You can find both blogs and much more on our News and Blogs page here.

A further feature of a good divorce is successful communication. The quality of the communication between a couple is key. In the podcast below, FLiP associate Nicole Phillips discusses the importance of successful communication in achieving a good divorce with Gillian Bishop, one of the founders of FLiP, and Dr Emma Loveridge, the founder of Rafan House (a clinically-governed psychotherapeutic clinic).


To listen to the podcast, click here.

At Family Law in Partnership we provide expert family law advice covering all aspects of relationship breakdown. We also have our own in-house counsellor, Jo Harrison, who is happy to undertake any appointments via video conference or over the telephone. For further information on how we can help you to achieve a good divorce, please contact any of the team on T: 020 7420 5000 or email us at E: