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Can Mediation Ever Be Appropriate Where There Has Been Domestic Abuse?

20 JULY 2026 | Domestic Abuse, Mediation | 3 Minute Read

Can mediation ever be appropriate where there has been domestic abuse? While many assume the answer is always no, the reality is more nuanced. In this video, FLiP Director and Mediator Helen Greenfield explains how mediators carefully assess each case, the importance of safety, and the safeguards that may enable mediation to take place in appropriate circumstances.  

Can Mediation Ever Be Appropriate Where There Has Been Domestic Abuse?

 

It’s a question that often divides opinion. While many people assume the answer is simply “no”, the reality is more complex.

For people separating or divorcing, family mediation can often help resolve issues such as arrangements for children or finances without going to court. However, where there has been domestic abuse, deciding whether mediation is appropriate requires particularly careful consideration.

Every situation is different. Whether family mediation is appropriate depends on a careful assessment of the circumstances and, above all, the safety of those involved.

🎥 In this short video, FLiP Director and Mediator Helen Greenfield explains when mediation may be possible, the safeguards that can be put in place and why circumstances involving domestic abuse should always be approached with great care.

More about Helen

Helen advises on all matters relating to family breakdown, divorce and cohabitation. She has a particular interest in helping those who have been affected by domestic abuse, which can include anything from isolating a person from their friends and family, monitoring their time or taking control over aspects of their everyday life (such as where they can go, who they can see, what to wear, their finances or when they can sleep) as well as threats to hurt, to kill or even physical assault.

Helen recognises that the legal implications of domestic abuse are accompanied by a plethora of emotional and other issues, and she aims to ensure that people are able to work through them with the right advice and support.

Helen’s aim is to ensure the situation people face, as a result of their relationship breakdown, is made as easy as it can be. She works with clients, both domestic and internationally, to deal with their problems in a constructive manner so the individual, any children and everyone else involved can move forward positively. Helen is a qualified collaborative lawyer and a trained mediator.  She is also a qualified Mental Health First Aider.

Helen Greenfield

"“To help clients achieve the best outcome possible, I provide them with clear options and advice on how to work through their difficulties and make the right decision for themselves and all those involved”."

Helen Greenfield - Director & Mediator

Q&A

Understanding Family Mediation

What is domestic abuse? +

Domestic abuse is not limited to physical violence. It can include controlling or coercive behaviour, emotional or psychological abuse, financial abuse, sexual abuse and other forms of behaviour used to control, intimidate or harm another person.

Can family mediation take place if there has been domestic abuse? +

Sometimes, but only in specific circumstances. A trained family mediator will need to first assess whether mediation is safe and appropriate before it can take place. This assessment will take place during the Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting.

What is a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM)? +

A Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) is a private meeting with a mediator. It helps determine whether mediation is suitable for your individual circumstances.

How can mediation be made safer? +

Where appropriate, measures such as shuttle mediation, where each person remains in a separate room or separate virtual meeting, can help reduce direct contact and support a fairer process.

Is mediation always recommended? +

No. Mediation is not suitable for everyone, particularly those where there is domestic abuse. The safety and wellbeing of everyone involved must always come first.

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Helen Greenfield
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Helen Greenfield
Director & Mediator

Helen Greenfield is a director, family mediator and collaborative lawyer at Family Law in Partnership. She has particular expertise in supporting individuals affected by domestic abuse, combining exceptional legal expertise with a calm, compassionate approach to help clients navigate complex family issues safely and constructively.

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